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Sa Pakikipagrelasyon ng Guro sa kanyang Mag-aaral

Kapag relasyong guro at estudyante na ang pag uusapan, maraming konserbatibong kilay ang nagtataasan at mayroon din namang mga pusong pilit na maghahanap ng pamamaraan para ito ay mabigyang katarungan na maaari man itong mangyari.

Ang mga guro ay tumatayong loco parentis ng mga menor de edad. Ang mga batang nasa paaralan ay protektado din ng batas sa ilalim ng RA 7610 (Child Abuse Law) at RA 7877 (Anti- Sexual Harrasment Act).

Ang guro ay may direktang impluwensya at “moral ascendency” sa mga mag-aaral kahit pa sila ay BOLUNTARYONG pumasok sa love affair sa kanilang guro. Ang ganitong “sweetheart theory” ay hindi kailanman tumatalab sa korte lalo pa at menor de edad ang isa sa kanila.

Sa RA 7610, para maiturung na menor de edad, ang bata o mag aaral ay dapat na mababa sa 18 taong gulang. Sa panahon ngayon na halos magkakaedad na ang teacher at ang mga estudyante lalo na sa mga Senior High Schools, hindi maiwasan na may mamagitan na love affair sa pagitan nila. Sakaling sobra na sa 18 ang edad ng estudyante, hindi na ba ito isang krimen? Alalahanin natin na mayroon pa rin tayong Child Protection Policy (DepEd Order 40, s. 2012) na kung saan, kasama sa mga itinuturing na bata ang mga may edad na 18 pataas basta sila ay mag aaral sa paaralan na kinabibilangan.

Marami nang guro sa ating bansa ang nakasuhan ng sexual harassment, qualified seduction, child abuse, o rape na nagsimula lamang sa tinatawag na pag iibigan. Hindi lang pagkakulong ang kaparusahan kundi pati na rin ang perpetual disqualification from the public service.
Ayon po sa Code of Ethics for Professional Teachers of the Philippines, art. VIII, sec. 7:
“Where mutual attraction and subsequent love develop between teacher and learner, the teacher shall exercise utmost professional discretion to avoid scandal, gossip and preferential treatment of the learner.”

Tayo ay may kalayaang umaksyon at sumunod sa moral na pamantayan tungkol sa ating responsibilidad bilang guro ng mga mag aaral na itiniwala sa atin ng kanilang mga magulang at ng buong lipunan. Pwede ba tayong pumasok sa ganitong relasyon? Tayo na po ang humusga.

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Margarita Lucero Galias

Margarita L. Galias began her career in education as a high school math and physics teacher in Immanuel Lutheran High School in Malabon City and Manila Central University, Caloocan City before serving as a public school teacher in Sorsogon City in 1995. She was a university scholar and graduated cum laude with a bachelor’s degree in Education, major in Math-Physics from De La Salle Araneta University. She also holds a master’s degree in Management, major in Administration and Supervision from Sorsogon State College. She is now currently employed in Mercedes B. Peralta Senior High School as a classroom teacher and a guidance counselor designate.

5 thoughts on “Sa Pakikipagrelasyon ng Guro sa kanyang Mag-aaral”

  1. I couldn’t stop my self, I only have a crush on him at first but now I can’t explain if do I still only have a crush on him but I think it went deeper but I can’t do anything because he’s just my teacher and he didn’t even like me. I’m embarrassed when I see that he felt uncomfortable when I’m around that’s why I want to stop but I can’t. He’s always in my dreams, I always remember him. He is always on my mind and couldn’t stop thinking about his smile😭 I don’t know what to do now. But I do want to stop. I don’t want to cause any trouble to him.

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    • Hello,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences in response to our article. It is not unusual for students to develop crushes on their teachers, and it’s important to acknowledge and address these feelings in a healthy and respectful manner.

      Situations like yours can be emotionally challenging, and it’s essential to recognize that pursuing a romantic relationship with a teacher can lead to ethical and professional dilemmas. Your effort to be mindful of this dynamic and your concern for his wellbeing demonstrates a mature perspective.

      First and foremost, it’s important to prioritize your education and maintain a respectful student-teacher relationship. You may find it helpful to engage in activities or join clubs which could divert your attention and allow you to foster new friendships and connections.

      Another key aspect is self-reflection. Understanding the reasons behind your feelings can help you manage them better. Are you attracted to his personality, knowledge, or the way he carries himself? Identifying these reasons might bring clarity and enable you to separate these attributes from the romantic context.

      Additionally, consider discussing your feelings with someone you trust, like a close friend or family member. Opening up to someone can provide a fresh perspective and help you navigate your emotions more effectively.

      Finally, remember that crushes often fade with time, and focusing on nurturing relationships with your peers and engaging in your own personal growth will likely provide more fulfilling and age-appropriate connections.

      Remember, it’s perfectly normal to experience strong emotions, but making sure to respect boundaries and prioritize your academic and personal growth is crucial. Good luck on your journey, and I hope you find my response helpful in addressing your situation.

      Wishing you the best in your journey.

      Best regards,

      Mark

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  2. Anong displinary action Po ba Ang puyde ibigay sa Isang guro kung sakaling siya palaging pinagsisigawan at nagdiscriminate o dinidiscourage Niya Ang Isang menordeng edad na Bata.

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  3. for me, maybe it’s okay if a person likes his teacher, it just depends on the teacher if he also likes the student at the right age, they are 19/22 its ok.Because the student is 19 and the teacher is 22. So it’s not bad for me because I’m at the right age, right? So that’s all I can say because we can’t be restrained when we love someone we’ve only talked to once. On the other hand, the teacher also didn’t know that the student liked him. So only the female student knows how she feels about her teacher.And he didn’t know if he would say it because he was also afraid of what his teacher would say to her. so She just wanted to keep it a secret.

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